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TV shuts down your child’s imagination – or does it?

Before I had kids, I was divided on the positives of television for children. It seemed to me that it was like anything else – in moderation, it was fine and seemed like it might be quite a useful device from time to time. But then once I got pregnant, I read a lot about the evil effects of television and how it shortened our childrens’ attention spans and totally shut down their imaginations. I knew families who didn’t own a television, and their children were certainly imaginative, well-spoken and outgoing and could amuse themselves for long periods of time. So we decided on halfway ground. When small, our children didn’t watch a lot of “live” television (complete with ads), we recorded programs which we liked and thought might interest them, and removed the advertising, and they watched DVDs.

I was worried about their imaginations being stifled, but what I found was that the children took the shows and made the characters their own. We have four older children, and it’s amazing how many children’s books and shows also feature four children. Let’s think about it for a moment: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe – Peter, Susan, Lucy and Edmund (two boys and two girls conveniently);  Teletubbies – four of them; Tweenies – Bella, Milo, Fizz and Jake (again, two boys and two girls and freakishly like our four); Kim Possible – Kim, Ron, Rufus and Wade; Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles – all boys, but Leonardo is the leader, Rafael the hothead, Donatello the inventor and Michelangelo – the goofy one who is obsessed with food and my two girls and two boys were able to identify with one of these each and so the list goes on. They would take on the characters, and invent scenarios in the worlds of the characters. Lots of roleplaying, lots of (somewhat derivative) stories and scenarios, and lots of inventive imaginative play.  I’m not going to tell you which child related to which character, on the grounds that the therapy bills may be too high.

My younger children (two boys who are now six) take this one step further. We’ve applied similar TV watching rules, and in fact, the boys watch very little ‘live’ TV. They are, however, exposed to totally age-inappropriate viewing courtesy of their older siblings. One of them threw a complete wobbly the other day because his sister noticed he had crept into the room and was engrossed in “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” so switched it off. He wanted to see the vamp get staked!!! They do watch a wide variety of shows, and have some special favourites – X-Men, Justice League, Avatar (the Last Airbender, not the blue aliens), Ninjago, Kim Possible, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and so on. There are only two of them, but they either take multiple roles, or they rope in school friends or their older siblings to be the other characters.

Here’s a conversation I overhead the other day.

Conal “Sam, watch out! Sensei Wu told you not to attack the Storm troopers!” (Lord of the Rings, Ninjago and Star Wars)

Zac “It’s OK, here come Batman and Zane and they’ll help him get Frodo out – they’ve got Harry’s wand!” (Justice League, Ninjago, Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings)

I’m not sure whether to be concerned about this total mashup of stories, or entertained. Mostly, I veer towards wildly entertained! Here’s a great picture demonstrating one of their stories. For those not up with the pop culture of six year old boys, the fighter is a Star Wars Lego kit. The figure is a Lego Ninjago character called Jay. You can’t quite see R2D2 in the cockpit of the fighter. Frodo fell off the front a few minutes before and Jay was catching him with the rope!

Star Ninjago of the Rings

Star Ninjago of the Rings

So where am I at with the TV watching and imagination? I still think that in moderation, and with some discretion, TV is not all bad. Obviously, we do to some extent direct what the children watch. That’s not to say that there are not times when we find a child vegged out in front of some mindless drivel, but then again, we’re guilty of that from time to time.

I have been pleasantly surprised by the imaginative games that seem to be inspired by the stories on the TV or in movies. Toy manufacturers like Lego do capitalise on this by producing figures, kits and books. But honestly? When you hear your kid discussing what makes a bad guy and what they should do if they see someone being mean to another person or animal, is that all bad? When you hear them taking on a character and changing their way of speaking and making up a complex story involving multiple mythologies, is that all bad?

Where do you weigh in on the TV versus imagination debate?

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It’s my hair and I’ll mohawk if I want to…aka the consequences of letting your 5-year olds watch Glee.

Wii Sing: Glee (Sweet Caroline of course!) – early indicators that they wanted to be like Puck!

Conal: “Mum, I want to look like Puck!”

Me (absently): “Um, why?”

Conal: “Because he’s cool and I like his hair” (breaks into “Sweet Caroline”)

Me: “You want a haircut like Puck’s? Puck from Glee?”

Conal: “Sweeeeeeet Caroline, bah, bah, bah. Yes, just like Puck’s. Good times never seemed so good…

When I was young, I had very fine, very curly hair. The hairdresser our family used decreed that my hair must always be short. For nearly 10 years I had exactly the same hairstyle – very short and curly. I loathed it. At fourteen, I finally put my foot down and didn’t have my hair cut for 3 years. The end result was that I had something that resembled a large, fluffy shrub on my head, g0ing upwards and outwards by the same amount. I vowed at fourteen that I would NEVER insist on a particular hairstyle for my children and that they could choose their own styles. I’ve maintained this with the older children, with the proviso that whatever style they have, they must take care of their hair (or allow us to do so). So, a haircut like Puck’s? A large gulp, followed by a  “Sure thing.” Conal was very happy.

The reason for my hesitation? Puck has a mohawk. Shaved sides, spiked up centre piece. Puck is clearly a bad boy. My small boy has the most glorious mop of curls. Every day through the week before his haircut, I check again “Are you sure you want your hair like Puck’s? It’s winter now, so you might get cold ears.” Each time, I am confidently assured that yes, the hair is to be like Puck’s. I try explaining that the hairdresser will need to use the clippers. No problems this time apparently, although he has hated them in the past.

We get to the hairdressers, and although she winces every time she cuts the curls off, off they come. And then the sides of his head are shaved. He’s thrilled – huge smile all over his face. There are curls all over the floor. She spikes up the centre part of his hair and he can’t stop grinning. He’s a happy boy.

Conal aka Puck at age 5

Then, disaster. Zac, also with a head of beautiful curls, announces that he loves Conal’s hair, and “I want hair like Puck’s too.” Now I have boys who are the same size, and obviously brothers, who have the same hairstyle. It looks like I’m trying to clone them. Next thing you know I’ll be dressing them alike and calling them the twinnies. Three of our big kids adore it and think the small boys look awesome. The fourth is on the verge of tears at the loss of the curls.

Puck II

Friends are slightly shocked. I tell them the story of my bad hair years, and why I am letting the children make their own choices. At the end of the day, hair grows back. And of all the battles I could fight with my children, this is not an important one. We take photos of our two Puck-lookalikes, belting out “Sweet Caroline”, faces wreathed with smiles. I am happy that I have let the children make their own decision on this one. I admit to the big kids that perhaps the boys do look adorable. Even as I quietly mourn those beautiful curls.

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